What is going on???? Everywhere I look...people are breaking up? I mean, in the last 3 months I have heard of more breakups within friends and family than I care to even count! It is too rainy, stormy, hot, expensive, stressful etc etc... I hate hearing about a relationship fading away. I am not naive in this area. I know sometimes it is for the best. I am old school...divorce hasn't come into the picture for me...the only reason I am even saying that is because of all the people I see who are splitting up. I am so blessed...everything hasn't been ideal in Jeff and I's marriage...I mean, for one...who dreams of a life lived with the one you love and adore without having children? Not us...however, we fight to the end to make it work...it isn't easy all the time... I have a friend who years ago was having issues with her husband. Each time they would argue they would talk about divorce...UGH!!! Horrible things are said in arguments that can't be taken back...causing huge crevices to form that eventually can cause impossible relationships... I went to BYU and received a degree in Family Science...I wanted to be a Marriage and Family Counselor...I studied toward that end for years. I never got my Masters...but have never stopped studying...I would just like to say three things I believe can help maintain a happy marriage...
1. COMMUNICATE...really LISTEN and talk to each other...
2. Say your sorry...even if it isn't your fault...even if you don't mean it...because one day you will realize you
really do mean it...blame doesn't have to be placed...you can just be sorry the other person is sad, can't
you?
3. Don't get so bogged down in life you forget who is most important...there was a reason you got together
with the person you married...love them in spite of the hard times... Remember we are ALL human...
even that perfect man...or woman you married!
I haven't been the perfect wife...I have a long way to go...however, I keep plugging along...and I hope and pray all of those I care about can be happy in their lives...struggling in a marriage isn't fun...God bless you all out there who are sticking it out and loving and doing what needs to be done. YOU are worth a great and wonderful experience in your marriages...and life. I hope everyone reading this doesn't have struggles...hopefully their 7 years itches are over and done with...or never happen.
Haha...I am so weird. I just had to get this off my chest...One day the world will be perfect, until then...I am relying on the Savior to get me through the struggles!
Hugs to you all...
