Guess we will stay, since we're lovers not fighters...haha.    Once again, new news...we are staying in Virginia.   We are excited to be able to be with our family here.  Hopefully, all will work out.   Many fragile feelings still.   We will maybe write more later.   I feel like when I was a kid and changed my mind every two days or so...this is right for us now.   We hope for the best.  Thanks so much for the wishes and prayers.

New Digs for Jeff, Cherie and Penelope Ann...

We have put our deposit on our new home!   WOOT.  We are just renting...of course.    We are excited!   We will be able to move in on the 15th of July.   I will be in the same ward as I left from 8 months ago.  Hopefully, I have many friends left and they will be nice and not think I am a burden.   UGH.    We hope to have Jeff working in Fort Wayne by then...if not, we may not leave here until the week later.   Jeff has a few prospects, one he has been asked to send more information.   We are hoping that is a good sign.   Pray for us, please.   IF this job would work out, it would be the first time Jeff has actually been excited about what he will be doing.   He would have opportunity for growth in the future and be able to use his degree!  WOOT!!!  We are so hoping they give him a chance.   We have gone through a bunch of hard times...this will hopefully be the last of the finances being so tight.  
We are looking forward to being closer to family and friends.   We are SOOOO looking forward to being home again...where we laid roots and left them.    We will miss our family here.   UGH.   It has been so wonderful being near Shawna, Pat and their wonderful girls.   We LOVE them sooooooo much.    It has been a blessing to be near Jeff's mom, as well...perfection isn't far from her.   She has just a few flaws keeping her here...we are soooo glad for them, whatever they are.   We love her sooo much.  Hopefully, if all works out we will be able to afford to visit more often.     Happy and sad days ahead. Thank heaven for the telephone and internet.  

Breaking up is hard to do...

What is going on????   Everywhere I look...people are breaking up?   I mean, in the last 3 months I have heard of more breakups within friends and family than I care to even count!  It is too rainy, stormy, hot, expensive, stressful etc etc...    I hate hearing about a relationship fading away.   I am not naive in this area.   I know sometimes it is for the best.   I am old school...divorce hasn't come into the picture for me...the only reason I am even saying that is because of all the people I see who are splitting up.    I am so blessed...everything hasn't been ideal in Jeff and I's marriage...I mean, for one...who dreams of a life lived with the one you love and adore without having children?   Not us...however, we fight to the end to make it work...it isn't easy all the time...    I have a friend who years ago was having issues with her husband.   Each time they would argue they would talk about divorce...UGH!!!   Horrible things are said in arguments that can't be taken back...causing huge crevices to form that eventually can cause impossible relationships...    I went to BYU and received a degree in Family Science...I wanted to be a Marriage and Family Counselor...I studied toward that end for years.   I  never got my Masters...but have never stopped studying...I would just like to say three things I believe can help maintain a happy marriage...
1.    COMMUNICATE...really LISTEN and talk to each other...

2.    Say your sorry...even if it isn't your fault...even if you don't mean it...because one day you will realize you
        really do mean it...blame doesn't have to be placed...you can just be sorry the other person is sad, can't
        you?

3.    Don't get so bogged down in life you forget who is most important...there was a reason you got together
        with the person you married...love them in spite of the hard times...   Remember we are ALL human...
        even that perfect man...or woman you married!


I haven't been the perfect wife...I have a long way to go...however, I keep plugging along...and I hope and pray all of those I care about can be happy in their lives...struggling in a marriage isn't fun...God bless you all out there who are sticking it out and loving and doing what needs to be done.  YOU are worth a great and wonderful experience in your marriages...and life.     I hope everyone reading this doesn't have struggles...hopefully their 7 years itches are over and done with...or never happen.
Haha...I am so weird.   I just had to get this off my chest...One day the world will be perfect, until then...I am relying on the Savior to get me through the struggles!
Hugs to you all...

Happy 83rd Birthday Dad.

Happy day dad.  You may be gone but not forgotten...still choke up thinking about you.   Never thought I would want to hear your stories again...the ones you said over and over...I would love to now...can't wait to hear em again...someday.   Sure love you...Think of you every day.   Hugs alot!! Tell Cindy, grandma and grandpa, and Marmie hi!
Miss you.